okay, the sun’s out

a damn good thing too. today was “RA day away,” when the RAs are officially free from 9 am to 3 pm. we have one per session and the theme was supposed to be “rob day”. we didn’t do much searching for rob, our AWOL co-worker. instead several of us decided to rent the first two star wars movies, get lunch, and not think about children, ours or rob’s mom’s.

our 2nd paychecks also arrived, enabling me to replenish my account. now my girls are arriving, enabling me to be responsible again. only one week more.

water without fun

 

has anyone else noticed that it won’t stop raining?  this is not seattle, where it’s okay if it rains because seattle is a mystical, wholesome city, free of materialism and greed, overrun with  characters from tom robbins novels wearing flannel and drinking free-trade coffee. 

 

i would do anything to be a character in a tom robbins novel, one of the well-described ones with an exciting personal life.  instead i’m merely an RA, back on duty in baltimore after my soggy and slightly unfulfilling day off.  yesterday featured some high points, including meeting my family’s new neurotic beagle whose name, i suggested, should be Disraeli (british dog, jewish family.  no brainer.)  dizzy for short. 

yesterday also featured a moment of Hitting Bottom: me, splayed out on my bed, crying into my pillow, stopping occasionally to look at the tear stains and consider the resemblance to ink blots.  really, i just didn’t want to come back here.  being home, with access to dvds, cable, a full fridge, a car, newspapers, and dizzy to play with, brought home (if you will) the fact that i haven’t been home much this summer.  i haven’t had time to recharge and i will need to recharge — desperately — before i begin my Life in the City.

which, by the way, i hear, now comes with a cat.  namewise, i vote for Gladstone.

fun with water

i think i’ve gained a little bit of weight since i’ve been here.  the cafeteria is awful.  no wonder the jhu students are so depressed!  the veggie options consist of bagels, pizza, french fries, grilled cheese (white bread soaked in butter and then fried), cereal, sandwiches, and a tepid salad bar.  sometimes veggie burgers.

the only reliably good food is honeydew, soup, ice cream sandwiches, and cookies, all of which you’re forced to fill up on once the ordinary food leaves you unsatisfied. 

yesterday the cafeteria staff yelled at me for eating a peanut butter sandwich on my way out.  i had to throw it away.  protein!  garbage can!  sigh.

my moods during the day tend to vaccilate anyway, but the eating the same thing three times a day that i’ve been eating three times a day for five weeks is beginning to drive me crazy.  i’ve viciously attacked a piece of cake and no, not in a metaphorical yummy way.  i’ve shot murderous glares at the cafeteria televisions which, at breakfast, blare some insipid Regis and Kathy Lee-derived show and at lunch soap operas. 

but that’s not the point of this post.  the point is that somehow no matter how dark the outlook during meals, things rebound.  the balance is restored.  in today’s case, my activity Fun With Water helped.  the kids had a blast and afterwards some of the RAs took to the water guns and buckets and had an even better time, because everything’s better when you’re older.  the prospect of my day off starting tonight also helps. 

in the same vein, the weekend went better than expected.  the RAs put together another casino carnival, this time featuring a Marriage/Divorce booth.  i manned the thing all afternoon, inventing new rules and occasionally shocking the children by asking if they’ve been tested.  maybe they liked being shocked: i attracted a contingent of hangers on. 

it’s moments like these that keep me from just walking off campus into the great gray yonder of baltimore.  moments like these, and rocky run’s margaritas, on the rocks with salt.

gurgling death

fiddlesticks!  are you telling me my new favorite summer pastime is over?  evening after evening, several of us would crowd into natalie’s room.  we called it “jewpardy!” because the four of us most devoted are —  well, clearly, half-danish and half-lebanese.  we four, and our hangers-on, would chomp starburst as we called out the answers, occasionally proving ourselves smarter than kenjen.

that final jeopardy! question, about which 2 20th century american presidents have middle names of other american presidents?  i was all over that.  i was the first person in the room to call it; and kenjen was the only contestant to get it.  sometimes, kenjen and i, we felt like we were on the same wavelength.

and you’re going to take that away from me?  til september?  by september, i won’t NEED 30 minutes of Adult World anymore.  here, it’s a lifesaver.  consider the commercials: because apparently the average age of a jeopardy! viewer is 109, we get a metamucil competitor, perscription pills for heart disease, and, of course, Depends.  (the commercial features an aged Thelma and Louise-type duo who travel the country, laughing and letting the wind blow through their hair, because they’re free!  free!  from the tyranny of toilets.)

it’s our antidote to the other 23 and a half hours of the day, wherein we’re responsible to children who weren’t ex-utero when madonna was cool.  my god, alex!  take that stupid smirk off your face and tell me: what are we supposed to do now?

smoke gets in your eyes

n.b.:  i know i haven’t been smacking my forehead about politics lately in this medium.  please don’t interpret that as a signal of indifference.  life here leaves me too drained for public displays of indignation, yet i can’t stop reading the news.  iran/iraq, the 9/11 commission report, the release of catwoman — none of these horrors have escaped my attention.  only my comment.

this session is harder.  everyone agrees.  one by one, each RA wanders into the office, sees another RA writing up a camper and realizes s/he has to write up a camper too.  at around 11 pm, if you walk into the office, you’ll see every RA grimly scribbling away: so-and-so eats nothing but honeydew; so-and-so’s consistently late to class; so-and-so is fighting with her instructor.  it never stops.

it wasn’t like this last session.  most of us agree we don’t want to romanticize the recent past and still we recognize there are more incidents this time around, more insubordinate kids.  that the weather’s getting intolerable doesn’t help.  at some point yesterday i was ready to walk off campus, write off this whole thing, pull a Rob.

Rob is alternately scapegoat and hero here.  he’s a Man of Mystery, a red-headed skinny RA who showed up two days late for orientation, claiming his “car” broke “down.”  he didn’t say much else then, or later; he hung around with a half-smile, looking by turns bashful and awkward.  then, two weeks in, he disappeared.  poof!  nobody could reach him.  at the phone number he left, the person who answered said, “Rob doesn’t live here any more.”

the question remains:  was Rob al qaeda?  a quantum leap-type time traveler?  a shlimazl who got trapped under something heavy?  all of the above? 

signs point to yes.

i should mention that various RAs and one quintessential TA talked me off the ledge, with the help of two excellent margaritas and some less-excellent but more-hilarious karoke.  (yeah old skool alanis!)  now i’m fine.  i’m not going anywhere.  i will deal with my depressive/bug ridden/needy/terminally shy campers, as well as everyone else’s, and by gum when i’m finished i will be more than able to withstand the same that awaits me at The Company.

evals

 

one of the RAs, E., slumped down next to me looking more frazzled than usual.  the dean of residential life had given her a talking-to about her performance.  not for any legitimate reason: E. may be a little spacey sometimes, and she doesn’t always remember to brush her hair, let alone make her scheduled presences, but her girls love her and she’s great with them.

 

i shook my head and tsked with her and we commiserated for a while.  then she startled me.

what do you do?, she asked.  do you have any tips? 

 

i couldn’t understand what she was saying at first.  what i do?  with what?

 

your girls, she said.  what do you do with your girls that works?

 

it still took me a couple seconds to process that she was asking me for advice.  not about what movie to rent or word choice in an essay.  about campers —  kids.  that moment made me realize i’ve been successful here.  i’ve given someone the impression that i know what i’m doing.  at least enough.

 

at the same spot on campus a few hours previously, i’d been sitting conversing with a couple different ladies, L. and Sh.  Both were expressing their confidence in the idea of marriage.  L. has been dating a guy for 1 and a half years and she knows he’s right.  She won’t marry him til she’s done with skool, but marriage is there.  On the table, in the cards. 

Sh., though she doesn’t have the exact person lined up yet, is similarly engaged to the idea.  more than anything else, she said, i want to have kids.  that’s the easiest way.

 

when i said i wasn’t sure about marriage, ever, let alone in the forseable future, both sorta gaped at me.  Sh. said, predictably, But what about kids?

 

another RA had joined us, a guy, S.  he chortled.  No way, he said.  ester’s not having kids.

why not?, asked Sh.  i think she’d make a great mom.

no way, said S.  and chortled again.

 

the funny thing is, being here has made me curious about having kids.  they’re such strange creatures and i spend all day watching them, wondering, Do they have inner lives?  what do they think about?  i almost want to have one just so i can know one intimately, collect data or have something to base theories on besides fading memories of what i was like as a pre-teen.  maybe that’s not an adequate reason.  on the other hand, i neglected to ask the two ladies i was talking to what their reasons were.  maybe they only would have gaped more profusely.

o, what a good girl am i

hey!  did anyone catch that i have the same birthday as heather (aka dooce)?  my birthday went off somewhat more smoothly than hers: no vomit on my part, although, while ben was down here with me for intersession, i nearly slipped and fell in someone else’s vomit.  you can’t get much lower than that.

 

the other RAs were sweet to me.  one bought me chai.  another made me a card.  another covered my pizza during our late-night celebratory watching of eddie izzard’s more-manic-than-usual new movie sexie.  and they threw me a “surprise” party that i totally saw coming.  i didn’t expect the halo they made me though.  the halo is pretty cool.

 

best of all, my hall from last session (“madonna”) made me a birthday package and left it with J., my one girl here for both sessions, to give to me.  it had a card, and candy, and a gift, and very yonic looking cookies, and a funny note.  like, wow.  i was glowing about it all day.

 

i also paid my first month’s rent on the new york apartment.  thanks to my first cty paycheck — well, and thanks to graduation — , i could cover it.  that may not be amazing to you but it is to me.  i’m growing like a beanstalk here, people.  how about that.

the whatever year

 

when i first opened my door this morning, i saw an upside-down cockroach wriggling on the floor.  i yelped and ducked back into my room.

 

when i next opened my door, i saw a crowd of sedate, timely campers ready to go to breakfast.  the ringleader greeted me: “we all have dry skin.” 

 

(i had told the girls that last session, one of my favorite campers had come to my door early in the morning, knocking frantically.  “what is it?  what?” i asked, once i’d made it to the doorway.  she extended her hands, palms up.  i expected to see stigmata, boils, thunderbolts — but there was nothing.  “what?” i asked again.  “they’re just hands!”

“they’re dry!” she replied.

“you woke me up because you have dry skin?”

“but i just put on lotion and they’re still dry”

“then go to the nurse!”  *slam*)

 

one of my favorite exchanges thus far this session:

girl:  ” … skank-hos.”

me:  “hey, now …”

girl:  “sorry.  fast women.”

 

happy birthday me.  and stefanie, if she’s reading this.

on the verge

 

i’m 52% done with cty.  last session ended reasonably well: although i didn’t get a touching goodbye moment with all my girls together, or a $50 tip from any parent, i did get lots of hugs and hearty recommendations.  one camper, when told to list my strengths, began with ‘sarcasm!’  others gave me credit for putting up with their craziness while managing to keep control.  aw.  and: phew.  at least *they* felt like i was in control.

 

the one day intersession the RAs had off did not suffice to return me to a state of nirvanic calm.  but it did make me happy.  ben dropped in, loaded with presents — a marilyn monroe poster i had seen and envied while apartment shopping, in honor of my birthday, and a belated, but AWESOME, graduation gift from his mother.  she basically ransacked the criterion collection for me.

 

now, my new girls are trickling in.  today’s steady rain better not be the harbinger of misfortune it seems to be, or god and i are going to have words.

money changes everything

who cares about the rock? i got what matters more: the CHECK. check #1 for my time here, which i’ve enjoyed far more than the times i was here as a camper. how amazing is that? free room and board, plus a salary, for having this experience.

it’s affirmation of a different, more practical sort. i did my job the way i was supposed to. in return, i got money. no lobbying necessary and certainly no guilt.

so i feel better, despite the fact that i haven’t gotten used to the idea that my precious girls will be leaving me. virtually simultaneously, my swarthmore.edu email address will be leaving me. that address and i have been very close over the past few years. sure, i knew that our relationship was winding down. we haven’t been communicating well. it’s been moody. sometimes it would plague me with spam; other times, it would stonewall me, offering nothing.

it was clear we were moving in different directions. but knowing this day was fated to come doesn’t make the coming of it any easier to bear.